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Have you ever wished that someone would hold you accountable for your bad behaviors? I am not talking about sex, drugs and rock n’ roll.  I am talking about those annoying bad habits that you just can’t seem to shake.

Your knee jerk reaction may be to say that you don’t want to be accountable to anyone.  You are your own person and don’t want to be told what to do.

I have experienced both of these feelings… the need for accountability and the need for independence…

But when I am honest with myself, I know that I need accountability more than I need to do things on my own.  I have been the most successful in changing my habits and improving my behaviors with that accountability.

The habit of overeating has been my most prevalent and deep seeded vice.  It has been something that I have struggled with since age 9.  It continued through much of my adult life… the ups and downs… the quick fixes… the terrible rebounds.  It has only been in recent years that I have tamed the beast.

I am not saying that I never struggle… it is still a daily decision to eat cleanly and in moderation… But I believe that I have discovered the secret to success…and more importantly, peace in this area of my life.  That secret is accountability, and in my case, accountability partners.

An accountability partner is someone that you check in with regularly to let her know how you are doing… the good, the bad, and the ugly…and in return you are there to support her in the same way.

Back when I first started getting my weight problem under control, I had a paid accountability partner via my Diet Center counselor.  I lost over 100 lbs. on the strength of my relationship with my first two counselors there.  I fell away from that program when the counselors to whom I felt connected moved onto new jobs.

More recently, I have developed a wonderful group of accountability partners via a fitness challenge group that I joined.  At first I just hooked up with some of the participants to be my APs (accountability partners).  But for the most part I found we didn’t click.  They weren’t really interested in checking in regularly.  But I found some really wonderful APs, once I became a cheerleader.  I took the time to support those people who took the time to post on the fitness challenge FB page.  By posting encouraging comments, I started to develop meaningful and supportive relationships with a small group of ladies who wanted to both receive and give support and accountability.  Now I can’t imagine my life without them.

So here is my advice, if you have a bad habit that you want to change or a new habit you want to form.  Find yourself some APs.  It has never been easier than it is now with the help of social media.  You do not need to go it alone.  Find a group that shares your desire for change and become a cheerleader.  And I feel certain that you will find the accountability and the APs for whom you are looking.  And before you know it, you will be ROCKING MIDDLE AGE!

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Habits are the key to changing your life... one habit at a time... use this guide to get started on the road to change!

30_day_quickstart_guide_to_habit_change_-_smaller

Habits are the key to changing your life... one habit at a time... use this guide to get started on the road to change!