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Everything is difficult before it’s easy…


What does your comfort zone look like?

Mine used to consist of sleeping as late as a mother of four could manage, a very overweight body that balked when presented with stairs or other physical challenges, just getting by, just surviving, and basically sleepwalking through my life.

You might be saying – “You call that a comfort zone?” Well yes I do.  I was used to my life as it was.  And although I wasn’t happy with myself, it felt normal.

That is not to say that I hated my life ~ I loved being a wife and a mother. In many ways I was living my dream and a very blessed life.

There were many times that I tried to change my life.  I would experience some temporary success, but then the shine would come off, and I would return to my comfort zone.

Then I discovered the power of habits.

I began to understand that my comfort zone consisted of a lot of bad habits.  I realized that I wasn’t doomed to obesity by bad genes and a poor metabolism.  I wasn’t a bad person.  I wasn’t a weak person.  I was really just repeating and repeating my bad food habits over and over.  The result was an obese woman who felt she had to throw herself up the stairs one step at a time due to her poor physical condition.  I discovered that I was, in actuality, able to change ~ one good habit at a time.

The first habit that I had to change was my stinkin’ thinkin’ (a FlyLady term that I love).  I had to learn to talk to myself kindly as I would to a struggling friend.  It took me a while to recognize all of the defeatist thinking that was going on in my head:

“I’ll never change”

“Why bother?  I will just gain all the weight back anyway.”

“I am doomed to be fat.  Just accept it.”

Now whenever I get down on myself, I start talking myself, replacing the negative with the positive:

“I am beautiful!”

“My past does not define my future!”

“It’s OK to stumble.  Just dust yourself off, Heather, and begin again!”

In fact, one of my favorite and most effective habits is my positive affirmations.  You can read more about that here.

Believe it or not, those negative affirmations in your head are part of your comfort zone.  And now it’s time to break out and start celebrating the glorious YOU that has been uniquely created by God to shine in the world. It’s time to change your stinkin’ thinkin’ and move out of your comfort zone.

As Hal Elrod said in his book, The Miracle Morning, “Everything is difficult before it’s easy.  Every new experience is uncomfortable before it’s comfortable.”  Eventually positive thinking will become your new norm.  It won’t be easy at first, but it will be worth it!  When you develop the habit of positive thinking and forgive yourself when you stumble, you will start ROCKING MIDDLE AGE!


Habits are the key to changing your life... one habit at a time... use this guide to get started on the road to change!


  1. Kathryn Thibeaux

    November 4, 2016 at 2:05 pm

    So blessed to call you friend and am so encouraged & motivated to move forward in my own to journey to be the best version of myself! Thanks for your honesty! Hugs!

  2. Love this post! As a fellow mom-of-four, I can really relate to this. Habits are a beautiful thing and work for – or against – us. It’s encouraging to see a fellow mom who has worked through these challenges and made the change!

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